The beginning stages of my Mothers dementia was demonstrated in her inability to communicate with us.
She became literally ‘lost for words’.
She would begin a sentence, but couldn’t finish it.
She would “ummm” and “ahhhh” trying to find the right words to say.
She would become frustrated.
Unfortunately for us her family, not understanding she was suffering from dementia we tried to translate for her.
This frustrated her even more, to the point of anger and her saying “forget it”.
Her reaction was misconstrued as being ungrateful for our help, so we lost patience with her.
At times it became easier not to talk to her at all.
“It’s so difficult, isn’t it? To see what’s going on when you’re in the absolute middle of something? It’s only with hindsight we can see things for what they are”.
S. J Watson, Author of Before I Go To Sleep